The Purpose of this Blog

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Years ago I made a decision about my purpose on earth, and that has become the purpose of this blog. It is to guide and inspire those who willingly come seeking guidance from me, based on my life, experiences, and best understanding of both God and my fellow human beings. I don’t always live faithfully by that, but it’s my goal.

On this blog, I share my experiences and my worldview, mostly on topics involving personal growth (including both spirituality and psychology) developed from what I think is a quite special gift I have. That is the ability to remain open to ideas even when they bother me, and being genuinely willing to change my mind about something I deeply believe if the evidence is there. These qualities are rare, and are largely what create my unique platform, perspective, and voice.

This openness (which I have intentionally cultivated over many years) has allowed me to explore many things most people are too afraid to explore, and ask questions most people fear asking. This has helped to create in me, I am often told by others, a certain wisdom.

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On Suffering, Loss, and Being Okay

How I Know That Whatever You're Going Through, You'll Be Fine

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I’m developing a capacity for suffering, for losing people I love, and yet I know deep down that I will be okay. In fact, I know it because of the suffering and loss.

I know you’ll be okay too. I want to share with you how I’ve come to know this.

A Word About My Own Suffering

I was dx’d with multiple sclerosis 25 years ago, December 5, 1990.

I didn’t get on a DMD (disease modifying drug) until 1998. During that time I had one or two flareups. I got onto my first DMD in 98 and was on it for about four/five years. During that time I had one or two flareups as well, but might have had more if not for the medication. No way to know. I purchased and used a cane for the first time. I would go years without using it. I even considered throwing it away a few times, as its presence reminded me that one day I might need it.

I went off meds in 2003 when the DMD I was injecting caused cardiomyopathy. I was off all DMD’s for years because interferon, the active ingredient that had caused the heart damage, was in nearly all of them. During that entire time off medication, I had three or four flareups, but they were pretty bad. Off work. Unable to drive, type, read, etc. I couldn’t feel my hands, feet or face. [If you’re now thinking of the pop song (I can’t feel my face when I’m with you…”), I definitely did not “love it.”]

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Evangelicals Support Torture — Isn’t That Weird?

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Dick Cheney, Torture Apologist in Chief

Isn’t it weird that evangelicals support torture? Apparently the majority of people in the U.S. are fine with it, including the majority of evangelical Christians. I wanted to put the word “Christians” in quotes, like I just did, but I know some of these people and they are sincere, good people. That’s what deeply bothers me about this.

Is there any greater testament to the fact that Christianity has been taught horribly, catastrophically, unconscionably wrong in the U.S. than the fact that the majority of evangelicals, who serve the Lord of Peace that they will stand in candle-lit sanctuaries in a week and celebrate, have no problem with barbaric things being done to other people God loves? Isn’t it strange that if I claim Jesus was speaking metaphorically about hell, many evangelicals would question my theology, but the majority of evangelicals can outright ignore what Jesus plainly said about loving one’s enemies and not have a second thought?

This demonstrates how much faith has become about what a person claims to believe and not about whether they actually do what Jesus commanded. If you don’t “believe” the “correct” doctrine about hell, you’ll be called a heretic almost for sure, but ignore the clearest and most direct teachings of Jesus and you’ll be in good company with the majority of both believers and non-believers. Apparently being a heretic, believing something that may be wrong, is far worse than disobedience — blatantly ignoring what we are clearly told to do, and not even intending to do it.

I’m no Pollyanna. I realize the fact that God loves these people doesn’t make them safe. It doesn’t make them good. It certainly doesn’t not make them terrorists who want to kill us. But it does compel we who claim to follow Jesus to actually consider what it means to “love our enemies.”

If you can figure out a way to excuse yourself when it comes to this thing Jesus spoke most clearly about, why not just exempt yourself from the entire enterprise of being Christian? What in God’s name does it even mean, if you get to be just as barbaric, just as fearful, just as reactionary as everybody else?

If it’s going to be like this, I’m left to wonder, what did Jesus actually save you from?

 

America’s Problem with Race

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Eric Garner being killed by police

Studies have shown for years that  there is a gross disparity between how white people are treated by the police, vs black people. And yet, when black people complain there is a problem, white people automatically start insisting that it is only in their heads. That is such a strange phenomenon. We have the objective data that tells us there is a problem. We know there is a problem. But when a black person says there is a problem, white society says how dare you suggest there is a problem!

And right there, that is the problem.

Whatever that tendency is, that rush to minimize, to not listen, to act as if a problem we know is there is not there, there is the problem.

It is a huge problem.

Black people experience that problem every day in terms of tangible behaviors by white officers toward them. But white America cannot bring itself to admit there is a problem, even though the studies already tell us that, and we have known it for years.

That is a huge problem.

It is like I always say in my couple counseling, if one spouse believe there is a problem in the marriage, there is a problem. And that problem alone is enough to blow up the marriage. The partner who does not believe there is a problem ignores the other partner’s experience at the risk of the entire relationship.

It’s gonna get ugly, I promise.

So it is that the white community is ignoring the black community’s experience at the risk of our relationships in this country.

If white America doesn’t wake up, it’s gonna get ugly, I promise.

You ain’t seen nothing yet.

Christian dildos?

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If the title wasn't enough to tip you off, this post is rated PG-13

This post by a writer and thinker I respect really got me thinking today.

This is one of those cases that shows the absurdity that lies at the heart of too much of evangelical culture.

Somewhere along the line we, as evangelicals, got the idea that we needed “Christian” versions of everything in the world.

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